Right Where You Are Meant to Be
by Traci S. Jackson
In today’s age of social media, the need to “keep up with the Joneses” has gotten a little out of hand. The comparison game can be brutal when you log on to your favorite platform and see someone jetting off on yet another trip or earning another accolade. Often, you can end up wondering when your time will come. You think to yourself that you’ve been putting in your dues, you’ve been working just as hard, you’ve been asking for guidance, and yet, you’ve been feeling like no progress has been made. It can be frustrating, to say the least. But what if I told you that there may be a reason that you haven’t moved forward? What if I told you that you are right where you are meant to be?
I get it if you’re angry. In our western culture, we see time as linear in chronos time We think, if this happens, then that will occur right after. the ancient Greeks had another word for time called kairos. It referred to the proper or opportune time or what we may think of as divine time. Kairos time is evident in the seasons, the moon phases, and in that experience that the Lion King called the Circle of Life. Just because things look dark, are not going your way or you feel like you’re not progressing does not mean that you are not moving forward. Just as all seems dead in winter, you are just being prepared for an amazing Spring and an even more vibrant Summer and bountiful Fall.
I, myself, recognized this recently, as I looked over the past 5 months. My intentions for these 5 months were very different from what occurred. I expected to be super successful as a one-on-one coach, felt I’d be working at least part-time on my spiritual pursuits and on my way to create courses, trainings, and workshops to help others live their best lives NOW. However, none of that happened. Instead, I went through a perceived winter in which I was prepared to become the person I am today. Over the course of that time, I was able to begin training in a new healing modality involving my favorite spiritual tool, oracle cards. I was also able to focus on caring for my mother, getting to the source of who I am and how I want to share my authenticity with the world and learning how to serve and how to trust and surrender to a power greater than me.
The acts of trust and surrender have been my favorite part of this 5-month process. Over the course of my life, I never understood what it meant to surrender. It always felt like giving up and usually, that’s how I approached it. “God, I can’t do this anymore, please help me” was my typical plea. Now, I recognize it as the graceful gift it is, “Lord, I know that you can see farther and no better than me what is best for me and at this time, I give this desire, this intention and this dream to you.” In so changing my view, I was able to see more clearly that I am where I am meant to be.
The following 3 steps were integral to me recognizing that I was where I needed to be, and I hope that they help you to realize that you are where you are meant to be:
- Understand that the nature of chronos and kairos time. Just because things look bleak now does not mean they will always be this way. You must believe that things will be better soon.
- See the blessing in where you are right at this moment. What are you able to do now that you wouldn’t be able to do if things were as you wished? What can you be grateful for right now? How is this preparing you?
- Trust and surrender to a power greater than you, knowing that it knows better than you how to bring forth the desires of your heart.
Have you recognized that you are right where you are meant to be? Have you looked back on a time in your life where you thought things were dire and realized later how it benefited you? Let me know in the comments below.